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Reasons or Excuses? Cheating 101

Why do men and women cheat? Is it boredom, thrill of the unknown or something deeper? And are any excuses even legitimate? Lets discuss this....

Reason #1: He/She ain’t what she used to be.......I have read that  the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. “If she got physically lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” says Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate – and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top 

Women who keep their men on a short leash need to take a “good, hard look in the mirror,” he adds......Men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still demand perfection from her. “It’s the typical double standard,” Santagati says.  For their part, guys should try to rediscover the spark at home. “Make her feel pretty, even if you’re lying,” he advises. “Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate it. It will make her feel sexy, and she’ll want to make you happy.”

Reason or an excuse?????????

Reason #2: Familiarity has bred indifference.......They feel taken for granted. Their guys will discuss the kids, bills and house repairs but they haven’t really talked in a while. 

To women, that failure to communicate translates to less intimacy and emotional and relationship satisfaction. When you’re unhappy or dissatisfied in your relationship, you’re more likely to be tempted to look elsewhere.  She may begin to perceive opportunities like her cute co-worker, the flirty man at the store she attends on the regular etc...When a woman feels like little more than a household drudge, attention from someone else is extremely seductive.

Reason #3: No one loves a ball buster...... Perhaps nothing will drive a married/committed man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife/girlfriend.  She’s like a mosquito He doesn’t want to have sex; he wants to swat her away.” And go running for hot sex with a more “understanding” woman. 

Reason #4: You’re leading parallel lives..... You used to travel the same path, but lately your interests have diverged.  Your guy wants to play video games with his crew or watch football in his free time; you’d rather go to festivals or watch some popular reality TV showWhen you start doing things separately, you’re more likely to meet others who share your interests.  Soon you may have more in common with that guy/woman in your photography class than your significant other.

Reason #5: It’s just sex.
For most guys, sex and love are different things.  Some really believe, ‘I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women'. That rationale allows guys to cheat guilt-free. If there is guilt, it may not be about the sex but the consequences. Will she kiss and tell? Will the wife find out?  Thinking of cheating on your wife/girl? “Consider the worst-case scenario: Your wife finds out and is brokenhearted,”  Ask yourself, is it worth it?????? Its never WORTH IT! 

For more "rules" check out my new book "Methods II My Madness: Women R Stupid & Men R the Reason" dropping the end of this winter

Also look out for the new stage play coming soon "The Chronicles to Benjamin Little" 

This has been a Steven A Miami KONcept
3s up & 305 down










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  1. I think a lot of men believe in reason #5! Personally I feel if you have to go somewhere else.... then its time to either make adjustments in your home or move the hell on! Why cheat? Cause people are lazy and greedy!

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