I stated in my first book Women R Stupid & Men R the Reason that "we are all f***ing up" I also stated that its our responsibility as a generation to be accounted for all our mistakes and bad decisions. I share a sample of my next book "The Methods II My Madness: Women R Still Stupid & Men R the Reason" of the mistakes we make over good sex & rushing to fast into situations. For controversial purposes I direct my attention first towards the women and then the men later in the book.
~Steven
It's said that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. So, yes, we know that snooping around our spouse's Facebook account is a bad idea, that if we and that believing in the fairy-tale love stories we grew up reading is silly, but sometimes we find ourselves giving these relationship moves the ol' college try! The results? Not so successful. Plus, we start to feel unbalanced, and perhaps rightly so.
The point is this: there are certain relationship mistakes women make over and over again. Like sleeping with someone right away because they believe it will eventually turn into a commitment or that they can change a man because "they are different" or the myth that if she caters to his ego he will realize that she is the woman he has been searching for his entire life when in reality she is just creating a fantasize notion that will reveal itself in a few months. Well, it's time to stop! Quit the terrible idea that you can change a man or that you can force him into marrying you etc! Quitters sometimes prosper, especially when lousy habits get left behind.
What irks me more than ever are those women who change because they are getting good sex. The good D.I.C.K they are getting is nothing but a Deceptive Intuition Causing Khaos at times. We'll get more into as we go deeper into this chapter but here is a list of things most men believe women should stop doing.
1. Thinking you'll never get over him/her whatever the case is. YOU will! Two months and several Facebook post later... you'll feel better when you realize "shit I am still living despite feeling I could never live again without this person".
2. Hacking into email or phones looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the "k thnx bye" text he sent to his female co-worker two months ago. "k thnx" is not code for "hot steamy sex." (Is it?)
3. Thinking your partner must be interested in everything you do, think and say! When it comes down to it, some women zone out when men talk about sports & other manly things right? Having a best friend or gab partner outside a relationship is a good thing! Yes he is suppose to be your best friend BUT driving him insane because he refuses to watch "Love & Hip-Hop" or listen to your favorite artist will get you nowhere.
4. Displacing! If you're mad at him because he ate your tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge, tell him you're mad at him because he ate your tasty restaurant leftovers out of the fridge! Don't turn it into a commitment issue. "You are so inconsiderate! You dont love me because you cant sacrifice your hunger" Please have a seat \_ make that several seats \_\_\_
5. Putting so much energy into the idea of a fairy-tale romance that you get disappointed with anything less.
6. Waiting for someone to find you, instead of going out and finding someone yourselves. Thing is YES a husband seeks a wife but if you stay coped in the house what is there to seek?
7. Thinking that a perfect relationship should be easy.Relationships require work and compromise; a perfect relationship means doing those things well consistently.
8. Dropping your friends when you're falling in love. Friends help define who you are, and you need them when things get tough or if you need to vent about your relationship. Just be careful about what you share with your friends.
9. Thinking that getting a boyfriend or husband will solve all your problems. No one can fix your lives for you but you!
10. Using the silent treatment. Your man can't read your mind; he won't know what's wrong unless you suck it up and tell him. A huge ego can and will lead you to a even bigger problem.
11. Not asking for what you want in bed. It can be as little as an appreciative moan when he does something good or as much as a frank discussion about your fantasies. Again, we can't read minds, and we'll both benefit from knowing what we find pleasurable!
12. Denying that there's a problem in your marriage or relationship, instead of facing it and asking yourselves what needs to be done. Problems don't usually go away on their own. Letting them fester only makes it worse.
13. Thinking that depending on someone else is a weakness. Leaning on someone else sometimes is the sign of a healthy relationship. Only thing about is YOU do not want to use someone as a crutch but use EACH other as a foundation.
14. Over-analyzing. There's analysis and then there's over-analysis. Wondering why the fiance didn't call once during his bachelor weekend in Vegas? A legitimate case for analysis. Wondering why he only called twice and not three times during a guys' night out? Not so much
15. Trying to reinvent the relationship wheel. If some items on this list feel cliche, it's because they are! If we would only listen to a good dose of love advice now and again, we'd probably save ourselves some heartache.
MUCH MUCH MORE this spring in "The Methods II My Madness: Women R Still Stupid & Men R the Reason"
I go very deep in this subject about those who change after sex, false advertisement, the fake leading the fake, & much more. Discussing problems BOTH MEN & WOMEN HAVE. Give me your feedback please. Tomorrow we will discuss the mistakes men make.
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Steven A Miami KONcept
3's up & 305 down
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