The Fish & Grits Diary of a former Bitter Black Man

January 24th 2013 Groove Me! Baby! Groove Me Baby Tonight! Baby baby please! -Guy “Groove Me is blasting as I write my 2013 Annual Winter State of Address I'M AMPED AND I AM READY TO UNLEASH THIS SLEEPING GIANT! Wait for it wait for it wait for it BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM moving on  Begins doing the running man Its a brand new year people and some still don't have their shit together O_o some fathers are only available on the weekend, some mothers know more about the dougie & cat daddy more than whats their child's favorite cereal, & people still use Facebook & Twitter as a way to share eveRRRRRything eveRRRRRything? Yes eveRRRRRything! Some shit we do not need to know like if your boyfriend hit you or if you havent had sex in a few hours, you are not accumulating “haters” you are gaining ppl who have the guts to tell you to SHUT THE FUCK UP & GET BACK TO WORK! Wait for it wait for it wait for it BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM moving on  Random but Mary ...

Dreams I dream of your touch while you’re away I dream of your smile all through the day I remember the day you came into my life I dream the day you will be my wife I dream of the day I can fall asleep next to you I dream of the day we say I do To be your husband To be together for life is a dream I have every night. -Steven A. Barthell AWWWWWWWWWWWWW 3 WEEKS LATER WHEN SHIT DOESNT GO YOUR WAY!!!!!!!!! Stay Away Leave me alone and stay away I don't need you to say everything will be okay You don't understand and you never will You've never felt my fears And your pain will never over fill You will never shed as much tears So stay away and leave me be If you could just open your eyes and see Things won't ever be the same So just go the way yo came And forever stay away! YA DUMB BITCH ASS ~Steven A Barthell With relationships I have learned how to be by myself and I have also learned how to adjust to a person...

As I sit here trying to figure out how to pen my thoughts on today's post I have come to the conclusion I DONT WTF TO SAY!!!!!!!! Wait for it wait for it wait for it BOOOOOOOOOOOM! I'm in the car, he on the ground trying to figure out wtf just happen!  ♫♫♫ And just like the ocean under the moon   Well that's the same emotion that I get from you  You got the kind of lovin that can be so smooth  Gimme your heart, make it real  Or else forget about it  ♫♫♫ Smooth- Santana ft Rob Thomas As I continue to eat my spare ribs which are coming off the bone thanks to soaking them in Rum, wine and Peach Ciroc I have a few things to get off my chest. Wait wait wait nope nothing negative (well to me) but just random thoughts after speaking with a few ppl over the past few weeks or so  Wait for it wait for it wait for it BOOOOOOOOOOOM! I'm in the car, he on the ground trying to figure out wtf just happen!  Current Events- Hmmmmm lets see January 25...

Sex, Love & Pain: The Chronicles of Benjamin Little Benjamin “Benji” Little is a recently widowed man who is getting back on track with everyday life….dating, working on his passion (music & writing), & now living with his colorful friends from high school. Benji has plans on re-launching their R&B band “Hello to the World” to perform for their 10 year reunion but the complications of living a real "adult" life is making this difficult. How does he deal with meshing his bandmates egos, his crazy ex-in laws making his life a living hell, anxiety & confusion of losing his wife at a young age & keeping the pact his friends made that no matter what happens they will always come together for Sunday Dinner. MAIN CHARACTERS Males: AJ Price- Struggling musical artist who wants his voice to be heard from his peers, they show him the least amount of respect because he can’t keep a “regular” job & is busy chasing his dream as a musical artist alo...

Do you know how many people are afraid of getting tested for HIV/AIDS? As of Feb 20 of 2012 over 479,161 were diagnosed with Aids & 1.2 Million with the HIV virus...617,025 died....42.6% of those diagnosed were African Americans...LETS MAKE A DIFFERENCE AND SPREAD AWARENESS through our communities...as of 2007 8,697 of those people were from my hometown Boston!  KONcept Productions presents: The 1st Annual Auction for Boston’s Most Eligible Bachelor/Bachelorette   . All bidding proceeds go to the AIDS Action Committee of MA, Inc. Men & Women in the city of Boston will have until January 24th to nominate the man/woman they feel are Boston’s most eligible bachelor/ Bachelorette   . The top 10 nominees will campaign from January 25th to February 8th of 2013 to be voted Boston’s Bachelor/ Bachelorette  of the Year. The winner will be announced on Feb 15th during a live event. The evening of Feb. 15th there will be a silent auction on the top 10 Candidates....

Why do men and women cheat? Is it boredom, thrill of the unknown or something deeper? And are any excuses even legitimate? Lets discuss this.... Reason #1: He/She ain’t what she used to be...... .I have read that     the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go.   “If she got physically lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” says Steve Santagati, author of  The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate – and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top   Women who keep their men on a short leash need to take a “good, hard look in the mirror,” he adds...... Men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still demand perfection from her.   “It’s the typical double standard,” Santagati says.    For their part, guys should try to rediscover the spark at home.  “Make her feel pretty, even if y...

If I pray to myself  Maybe God above will hear me  And if it is in his will  Then he'll send you right back to me  I'll hold my feelings inside so that you won't see me cry  I hope it's all in my mind cause I'm scared.  Dru Hill- All Alone Its hard for adults to admit when they are wrong especially if we are so passionate with our feelings and within ourselves. 2012 was a huge roller-coaster filled with emotions, tears, smiles, happy moments, depressing moments, revelations and the unfortunate death of loved ones.  Through it all life is still moving along like the river of blood flowing through our bodies. Granted everyone celebrates & heals differently. Some will blame others for their actions, use their past and emotions for reasoning behind each event. Myself for example I take time to be angry, I will cry, I will yell, I will distant myself from everyone for a short amount of time & I will try to cope my pain with vices s...