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If This World Were Mine (Back In The Day Dating)

If this world were mine
I would place at your feet
All that I own
You've been so good to me
If this world were mine

I'd give the flowers the birds and the bees
And it'd be your love beside me
That would be all I need
If this world were mine
I'd give anything


Luther Vandross- If This World Were Mine



Remember when dating was innocent? The school dances? The love notes? Do you like me yes or no? CIRCLE ONE....the crazy thing about it we're grown now all that shit doesnt exist does it?????


Embrace life & make sure we live it to the fullest! We should treat life like a photograph; meaning we should live everyday as if we were living inside a picture, because after all, no one ever take pictures during the bad times right?



Here's todays topic about motives & sacrifice towards building a healthy relationship!

In my book “Women R Stupid & Men R the Reason” I ask in the chapter “Court You, Learn,  Love You, Marry You” what are your motives for being in a relationship. Most readers have given me great reviews about the topic & question that I decided to turn it into a workshop. One of my motives for being in a committed relationship is to make sure I have an awesome bond with the woman I a involved with. 


I am a very simple man yet I can be difficult to deal with sometime because I refuse to 
settle for anyone's bullshit or excuses for why they won't do something that I know will 
require to make me happy. Relationships are about give & take and compromises with ones needs, they are also about having fun while submitting yourself to each other. I am a strong believer in making sure while I am dating you I will be the best man I can be, your lover & best friend. Consistency is the sexiest thing you can do while being with someone whether if its with sex, communication, & especially your actions matching your words. I expect the same thing from the woman I am with. 


So I ask what are your motives for being in a relationship? If you are not ready to commit or work hard to a relationship then do not  apply for the position, it will take major energy,time, effort, action & consistency to remain happy! And if you are not happy I suggest you leave without hurting someone, lying or cheating. 


Some treat relationships like general managers for a sports franchise who block rivals from increasing success; in other words they draft players well in this case people so nobody else can have them.Wasting someones time is selfish & reckless, if you fuck the wrong person they will fuck you with drama and other unnecessary bullshit you do not need in your life. Most the things we read on relationships are very simple WE AS PPL MAKE IT COMPLICATED & also confusing. 


Once again once you are not happy or if you are not being treated right then end it as an adult. Some “adults” do not have the testicular fortitude to do so and end up dragging relationships along until bitterness sinks in or the temptation to find someone else while their involved clouds their judgment. Communicate effectively, make a decision & then face the consequences of what you chooseto do! 


Wait for it wait for it wait for it wait for boooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooom! Moving on I'm in the car, haters on the ground trying to figure out WTF just happened.

I suggest you find a spouse, lover & friend instead of looking for a person you look good with, wantto just have sex with or are with because its safe. 


Relationships arent for everyone & YOU DO NOT NEED ONE TO BE HAPPY! 


But if you are interested in being apart of a commitment what are you willing to do? 


How much energy & time are you willing to sacrifice? Are you ready for that next step? 


Can you give your all and embrace what is being presented to you? Will you know when to pull the trigger if you feel as if the situation isnt right for you? So many questions but they will help you with the choices you make. 


For more on this subject pick up my debut book “Women R Stupid & Men R the Reason” and look out for the sequel "Methods II My Madness: Women R Still Stupid & Men R the Reason" 


I know the title “Women R Stupid & Men R the Reason” is very controversial & shocking but you can not judge a book by its cover without knowing the content. 


Do I personally think women are stupid? No Can they be? Yes everyone can that includes men also. The book title is simply a oxymoron meaning the its the exact opposite of how I personally feel about ppl. What I do in my book is talk about the main battles we face as ppl in our society & my generation mostly!

This has been a 
Steven A Miami KONcept
3's up and 305 down

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