Steven's Thought of the Moment 11-15-11

November 15, 2011

Love was so strong
At least at the beginning
Who wouldve thought
There'd ever be an ending
We had it all
But it's like we've run into a wall

Now we try to talk
But just end up fighting
Try making up
But there's just no denying
Just ain't the same no more
What are we putting ourselves through all this for

You talk and hear me
But you can't communicate
Cause you're not listening
Know these are two different things
Now I see what it means to have been
Blinded by the one you love so deeply
Cause,

The very things that made me love you
Are the things pushing me away now
In tears we stand here
With nothing left to say

And all I could do for you
I should've done before now
In tears we stand here
There's nothing, nothing left to say


~Mint Condition

Good Morning, Good Afternoon, Goodnight! Wassup Wasssup Wassssssssssssssssssssssssssup! Hope all is well and I hope everyone has a very Happy Thanksgiving. There is so much to be thankful for even if shit is not going your way! Embrace what you do have and do not let stress, depression or lack of what you want or need get you down. Ok? Got it? Cool! Last week was very rocky for me, ok lets keep it real over the past 6-8 months have been rocky for me. I have been trying to perfect my niche with selling copies of "Women R Stupid & Men R the Reason" which you can get from Barnes & Noble or www.amazon.com, my communication with family has decreased & my relationship with the woman in my life is officially over. Which gets to today's Thought of the Moment wait for it, wait for it, wait for it BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM! I'm in the car & doubters are on the ground trying to figure out what the fuck just happened.

Boston, MA is a very huge city but yet its very small because after a while everybody knows everybody! Unless you mind your business but then again some people just talk to fucking much. I see on Twitter (follow me @StevenABarthell) & Facebook (Steven A Barthell) that tons of people do not believe good men and women live in this city why? I asked a question today "I notice a few ppl want a good man/woman from the Boston area but what will you do with them when you get them?"  I also stated not everybody deserves what they ask for. People put up a huge front as if they are the greatest creation to any man or woman. I love self confidence and appreciate somebody who brings energy to the table unfortunately there's tons of people who are bringing bullshit to that table. I find it hard to believe everybody who states they are a good man/woman actually are. Its a cliche but ACTIONS are very important and also CONSISTENCY which is the sexiest thing someone can bring to a relationship especially if it is positive CONSISTENCY. wait for it, wait for it, wait for it BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM! I'm in the car & doubters are on the ground trying to figure out what the fuck just happened.

I was told I was being to picky & unrealistic with what I want in a woman O_o wow! My mother taught me that if I want something or if I believe in it I should work hard to get it. Why shouldnt I get what I work hard for? If I am consistent, honest, energized and embrace a relationship from the get why should I have to settle if a woman doesnt do the same thing? I am very open minded but that does not mean my mind has to be clouded by love or the thought of being with somebody. In my book "Women R Stupid & Men R the Reason" I told the fellas that if they want the woman of there dreams to create a list. Here is my list & I do not think I am being picky or unrealistic whatsoever and if I am then I will wait until God sends me my wife.

My "List"

• She has to be true to herself: If a woman doesn’t first believe in herself what makes you think she is going to believe in you.

• She has to be honest: People make mistakes and tell little white lies but if a person can’t look at you in your eyes and tell the truth at 99.9% of the time then it is not worth messing with them.

• She has to show affection: Not saying to be all over your love one or anything 24/7 but at least showing that she cares for you not only physically but mentally as well as spiritually and if she can’t do that what’s the point of a commitment you might as well have a friendship which gets to my next point.

• She has to be willing to be your best friend especially with communication: Being able to talk to your love one should be relaxing and fun. There shouldn’t be any secrets between the two you. Now I know there are things you and friends talk about that are suppose to stay between the crew & that’s cool but for the most part your partner should be filled in with the things that are mostly pertaining to you.

• She has to know what she wants out of your relationship: Don’t pressure the girl or anything but don’t waste your or her time either, if you both aren’t on the same page about how to deal with your relationship then your fresh out of luck. You'll end up sitting there watching your damn phone wondering if she's gonna call or you'll think "hey she's about to be wifey" and she thinks I have found another best friend forever!

• She has to be independent: An independent woman gives off a major attraction. But sometimes it has its disadvantages. You want someone who is going to take care of herself but you also want someone who is going to let you take care of her when she can’t and the willingness to accept happiness. If a woman is letting her past reflect her future RUN RUN! RUN!

• She has to accept you for you: She got into the relationship for a reason and if she cant accept the person for what that person is then there’s a problem especially if there was no negative change in that persons attitude. There is always room for change only if its for the better of the relationship for both sides. You're an adult you are who you are already!

• She has to have a balanced life: I have seen some women who rather do anything in their power to get a baby sitter for the dumbest shit ever or to party all the damn time. Nobody wants a party girl, nobody wants a temporary mom, nobody wants a temporary girlfriend. There is nothing wrong with going out and having a good time but if every weekend you rather party and not spend quality time with me SEEFUCYALATA! I don't mind a woman having "me" time or hanging w/ the ladies but dammit all the time?

• She has to know how to cook: A way to a mans heart is through his stomach (VERY TRUE!) I know how to cook myself very well. But it is very rare to find women lately who can throw down in the kitchen. As a matter of fact all the women I have ever dated I cooked better than them. I know my southern belles are great but I'm in Boston. I can teach you if you like I have no problem spending time with someone who I like in the kitchen
  
• She has to be Consistent: Consistency is the sexiest thing on a woman! I am open minded and I know shit will not always be perfect but consistency is a huge deal breaker for me. I am in a position where I need it! 

****Note:

There's plenty more but those are the basics! Well my basics I'm not that hard to please but its hard finding 85% of this list. With me its almost like qualifying for a job (application, interview, and then probation period) shit I know women treat me the same way but much worst. I have heard he's cool now but eventually he'll show his true colors. I'm far from perfect but what you see is what you get I'm not changing for you, you, you, or you! I'm Me!

That's my "list" and I'm sticking to it *shrug* but like I stated what are you willing to give back? Once again create a list here's another example for what a woman will get in return from me:

When I get a Girlfriend/Future wife she will get the following: 

1. A MAN that doesn’t need to be reminded that you are here for me and you are not going anywhere you know what I talking about all the silly questions to remind him that his penis might just be working "Baby do you love me? you didn’t say it back", "What are you doing? Who’s over there with y'all?" or how about this one "Who was better me or him?" It sounds silly but you be surprise about the insecurity of some of the people who I hang around or use to hang around. I was once that man!

2. A MAN who calls to see how your day is going and not calling 2 check up on you, he will be sincere about the call and every now & again he might just surprise you with lunch or dinner at work or home when you least expect it (of course not violating your "ME" time.) 

3. A MAN that can look you in the eye without hesitation and tell you his where about and for a change not be lying. Trust me we are all not the same. Of course we all make mistakes and slip here n there but when you have someone who is honest with you at all times that’s special.

4. A MAN who is willing to accept his mistakes and try his best to learn from them “Hey I fucked up! I'm sorry and I will make sure the shit doesn’t happen again”

5. A MAN who is willing to make sure you are okay in the bedroom before himself being selfish in my opinion went out the door in 1998 with the Chicago Bull Dynasty.

6. A MAN who can say "Babe I'm going out with the guys to 1.play ball 2. go to the club 3. play video games 4. just chill and who WON’T LIE ABOUT IT!

7. A MAN that can cater to you while cooking for not only himself but you as well giving you a break while you relax.

8. A MAN who knows that he should go to church and stop using profanity, once again he is not perfect but is working on fixing all of his faults.

I am far from perfect ladies & gentlemen but I refuse to be selfish and go along with something if I am unhappy. I see tons of men & women do this and the relationship drags on until the point they are bitter and bored with each other. NOT THIS MAN! No way No how 


This has been a Steven A Miami KONcept
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"Breaking up is a natural evolution when you try to figure out what you want in life. If you're with an individual who isn't moving in the same direction and at the same rate that you are, it ain't going to work. "~ Phillip Antoine McLester-Zayas